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who is jaime morgan It catches the eye in the hustle and bustle of a bustling coffee shop. Her warm smile greets me as I approach. She exudes her euphoria, so I can’t wait to hear about her new career as she shines from within.

“I’m a divorced relationship coach,” she says with a laugh.

Start a conversation like this! This is a clue as to how Jaime works as a relationship coach. Straightforward and honest with a sharp sense of humor.

“I work with a lot of people who have gone through a divorce,” she says. “I am there and I understand it. I know you helped me.”

Jaime is currently happily married to his partner Justin. Social When viewed through her media lens, their relationship looks fun, passionate, and easy-going. That’s all (most of the time), but she shares that there’s a lot of intentional work going on every day to keep it going.

“First and foremost, I truly believe friendship is the foundation of all relationships. We have to foster it, stay connected, talk to each other, like each other.”

Jaime believes the Gottman Method (TGM) changed his relationship with himself and ultimately with the man he loved. Simply put, TGM gives you the tools to build and maintain healthy relationships. It was of great benefit to Jaime that she was certified as Gottman’s coach.

“It’s an opportunity to combine my personal experience, my passion for helping people, and my psychology education.”

TGM was developed from a real person. Researchers studied the behavior and behavior of couples in good relationships. Based on that, very specific guidelines were created to show you how to change your relationships.

“It doesn’t matter what happened to the relationship. If there are two people who want the relationship to work…it can work.”

Jaime breaks it down into 3 C’s for his clients. communication, conflict resolution, and connection.

Starting with communication, Jaime teaches clients that it’s more than just talking. He listens to his partner, really listens, and provides a safe space for him to share what he feels is important.

“I think all the relationships in our lives would be different if we were taught how to communicate in a really healthy way in school the way we were taught mathematics.”

When it comes to these inevitable arguments, Jaime instructs his clients to sort conflicts into one of two categories.

“Some conflicts can be resolved, but most are persistent conflicts,” she explains. “These are rooted in the fundamental differences between you and your partner. They are conflicts that keep occurring because you are two separate people.

With constant conflicts going on, relationships end up managing them. Coaching the couple on how to navigate an argument effectively is extremely satisfying for Jaime.

“I truly believe conflict can bring you closer if you have the tools to do it in a way that fosters connection.”

Jaime’s coaching is focused on the here and now. Unlike her other therapies, she doesn’t delve into her past.

“We look at where you are now and what you want to be in the future. Develop steps.

Jaime admits it’s hard work, but says there are big rewards if you choose to invest in yourself and your relationship. I mean

“How we show up in a relationship is what changes it. We tend to think it’s all about what our partners do, but really, it’s how we show up. That’s when we see the biggest change when we dial in what we need to work on ourselves.

In addition to working with couples, Jaime has a number of personal growth clients with whom he currently has no relationships but works himself.

“I work with many women in particular to help them build strong identities and confidence that are the foundation for attracting healthy relationships into their lives.”

Jaime himself is a shining example of TGM’s success. While she guides others through her personal and relationship growth, she and her husband Justin do the job as well.

“When you individually work on yourself and share the joy of that together, this can be a really exciting part of the relationship.”

As we wrap up our coffee shop conversation, we decide we can’t walk away without asking for some free advice. Jaime says you can start today to improve communication, manage conflict, and nurture relationship connections.He shares three things.

Daily check-in: You just need to spend a few minutes each day having an open dialogue about your relationship, so schedule it. This is not the time to talk about kids or schedules. This is about telling where you are today and listening to your partner…same. This ritual helps avoid big fights by ensuring that unreported problems don’t accumulate.

take a timeout: When an argument or situation is heating up, give yourself and your partner the gift of a break. Make it clear that you will revisit the issue later. Nothing good happens in fight or flight mode.

Own Your Own: Allow yourself to recognize that you are in that blame zone and that you are blaming your partner. Take that as a clue and look inside to see what you can do to improve the situation.

Learn more about Jaime Morgan Relationship and Personal Growth Coaching on Instagram @thejaimemorgan and jimemorgan.com.

Article courtesy of Boulevard Magazine, a publication of Black Press Media

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